Love Is Chosen
- badgalbuja
- Sep 6, 2020
- 3 min read
Updated: Sep 10, 2020
We choose to love.
Love is something that we choose to feel after experiencing the long journey of liking someone.
There are two stages that lead to people choosing to be in love;
The infatuation phase:
This is the phase that gives people the ability to "fling" around. During this phase we are given the chance to be drawn and attracted towards the other person. This phase is what makes us want to sandwich ourselves in the arms of the person we are having a connection with. If this connection is as strong as it should be, we get into
The "I Like You" phase:
During this phase, we become curious. We want to feel more but also want to know what we are feeling. We also start to reason out the emotions.
"What am I feeling?
Is what I am feeling genuine?
What is my partner feeling?
Is my partner happy?
Does my partner feel the same way about me?
What do I have to do to become a better person for him/her?"
The liking phase is the most difficult part of relationships because of the patterns of our emotions and the things we do. It is entirely normal to get into arguments during this stage because you are in the stage of knowing the other person.
You need to be patient with yourself but also you need to consider how your partner may feel. Having a strong bond is not an easy thing to do and It does not happen over night and definitely not through infatuation.
Relationships are about happily working for the bond to get stronger. This work I am talking about include, being around, being open, being communicative, being considerate, sharing, caring, being concerned, being worried, being curious, asking questions, being honest, being supportive, being forgiving, being thankful and appreciative and lastly, believing in the other person.
Remember that these things come naturally when what we feel is also natural, and not being forced.
The "I Like You" phase is the most beautiful part of the relationship that leads to the next glorious phase.
The "I Love You" phase:
When do we know we are in love?
People are different and everyone falls in love in different ways. But the love we feel is the same kind of love. We know we are in love when we start to choose the person over the majority of things in our lives. Remember that when your emotions become stronger than they were, when your affection towards your partner becomes uncontrollable, when your acceptance of the other person becomes unconditional, it is because at a certain point in the "I Like You" phase, you chose your partner over everything else. That realization that your partner is more than just your boyfriend/girlfriend, that your partner is not just important but precious, that whatever hurts your Partner hurts you, is what leads to the love you may feel right now or the love you are yet to feel in the future.
However, I would like to point out that before you choose to love, have that love for yourself.
When you love yourself first, it shows and glows and inspires your partner or the person you like, to want to be around you. In this case, this self love, creates an Aura that embraces the heart of the other person to be in love with you.
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